Tim McCarthy, my father-in-law, died two days ago. He didn’t dwell on fractured relationships. Instead, he was a master at focusing on the blessings in his life.
One of your best, Matt. I'll be sharing w someone who needs it, a young Mom w difficult mother.
As a biographer I suggest that you "publish " these two booklets on Facebook, using the "Albums" function. It's free, permanent, and I certainly can show you the rudiments.
You might find this big Fbk page interesting: "Parents of Estranged Adult Children -- All Stages".
I am sorry for your loss. "Honor thy father" -- I had forgotten about that commandment. It is interesting how many of us do the exact opposite, as Tim apparently wrote about in "Don't Blame Your Parents."
I don't know what his history was, but in that work, I wonder how much he talked about blaming his parents (in their absence or presence) too much himself, beyond just relating the alienation that he felt being made an outcast in some quarters for his parenting.
Tim was increasingly self-aware, so I am certain that he'd ackowledge his own flaws in this regard. Thanks for reading and taking the time to share your reaction, David. Hope all's well.
Thank you, Lavelle...hope you've had a great Easter. I realize that "great" has a certain limitation within our flawed/fallen lives, but it's nice to max out on whatever potential is available :-)
One of your best, Matt. I'll be sharing w someone who needs it, a young Mom w difficult mother.
As a biographer I suggest that you "publish " these two booklets on Facebook, using the "Albums" function. It's free, permanent, and I certainly can show you the rudiments.
You might find this big Fbk page interesting: "Parents of Estranged Adult Children -- All Stages".
Thank you, Gordon -- very thoughtful insights and leads here.
I am sorry for your loss. "Honor thy father" -- I had forgotten about that commandment. It is interesting how many of us do the exact opposite, as Tim apparently wrote about in "Don't Blame Your Parents."
I don't know what his history was, but in that work, I wonder how much he talked about blaming his parents (in their absence or presence) too much himself, beyond just relating the alienation that he felt being made an outcast in some quarters for his parenting.
Tim was increasingly self-aware, so I am certain that he'd ackowledge his own flaws in this regard. Thanks for reading and taking the time to share your reaction, David. Hope all's well.
I live something similar, .. and love this.
I'm grateful to *you* for sharing. 🙏🏽
Happy Easter.
Thank you, Lavelle...hope you've had a great Easter. I realize that "great" has a certain limitation within our flawed/fallen lives, but it's nice to max out on whatever potential is available :-)
Beautiful piece, Matt. Very touching. I’m grateful to have read it. Love the pic of Tim and Zack, btw.
Thanks very much, J. That photo certainly is worth at least 1,000 words, right?
Excellent article, and this: Few realize blame is also a drug, available 24/7, self-prescribed and, like any sedative, it's addictive.”
One of the smartest, most profound things I've ever read. Seriously :)